by Danneh Sat Jun 06, 2009 4:14 pm
Hey Jake, I know I told you that there wasn't any good advice to give someone after a breakup, but I'll share with you some of my experience.
Now, I've gone through 4~5 internet relationships, all of them ending badly and scarring me, ranging from mild depression to major trauma that lasted several months. I admit, I felt like giving up then and there after most of it, on pretty much everything. And I tried to, and well... Now I'm pretty much borderline deadbeat material.
One thing I know now that I wish I knew then is that... You can't let that pain get in the way of other things that are important to you. Sure, things might not seem so important to you when they're being drowned out by the pain of losing a loved one, but... Imagine what happens when you DO eventually get over it and end up looking back on the time you lost mourning?
Jake, I just don't want to see you end up like me just because someone hurt you... It's a cold fate, believe me. You don't want to go where I've been. It feels ten times worse than losing a loved one...
So do yourself a huge favor and double up on a hobby. Get outside and get active. Focus harder on your education. Hell, if it comes down to it, try and find yourself a new lover. Just do something to get your mind off the pain long enough to recover, so that you don't wind up deciding that you want to give up on everything you've worked for.
Just... don't end up like me. The world doesn't need another Danny Mullins. You're a good man, Jake, and you deserve much better than my lifestyle...
